That was the first time I'd heard the famous Einstein quote:
Problems cannot be solved by thinking within the framework in which the problems were created.The extended meaning of this quote has grown clear over my thirty years of coaching. Change occurs when we:
- come to see a frame of reference (worldview) within which we have been operating,
- learn to observe without judgment the nature of our thoughts and behavior from within that worldview,
- experiment with ways to interrupt those previously unconscious and automatic responses.
When you don't step out to a fresh perspective, but continue thinking and acting from within the framework in which a problem arises, you create "more of the same." This dynamic operates every time you and someone else act from within your own worldviews without discussing your assumptions openly and developing a larger perspective.
A wife and husband agree in marriage counseling to show each other appreciation every day for a week. In the next week's session the wife says "You never once brought me flowers!"
The husband says, "You said you wanted me to do something different, so I thought you would see flowers as not really doing anything. Instead, I took out the garbage every day this week. And you didn't even notice!"